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Article “Understanding Black Lives Matter – The New Civil Rights Movement” — June 18, 2020

Article “Understanding Black Lives Matter – The New Civil Rights Movement”

I’ve been doing more research a bit here and there and I came across this article which gives more detail into Black Lives Matter and was written in 2016. I’ve tried to share the actual link to the article but I keep getting a message stating that there is an error so I’ve copied and pasted the entire article here.

Please feel free to share this with others as well as friends and or family members who feel the same way and want to learn and educate themselves about Black Lives Matter.

Understanding Black Lives Matter – The New Civil Rights Movement

We are continuing our Racial Justice Initiative this year, which was well received in 2015-16. As before, there will be book suggestions and discussions, a few movie nights, and social action opportunities, as well as the Beloved Conversations Adult Religious Education offering which was developed by a UU minister.

A main focus of this fall will be understanding the Black Lives Matter movement, and the UUA’s support of the movement.

See Understanding Black Lives Matter – The New Civil Rights Movement: Info Sessions and Listening Circles for dates and details.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the Black Lives Matter movement?
Don’t “All Lives Matter”?
What about “Blue Lives Matter”?
What is institutional racism and how does it impact black people?
Is the UUA supporting the Black Lives Matter movement?
What is Standing on the Side of Love?
Links for further information

Download the PowerPoint slides from the information sessions.

What is the Black Lives Matter movement?

This new civil rights movement was founded in 2012 by three black women, Alicia Garza, Opal Tometi and Patrisse Cullors. It is a national and international social justice and civil rights movement of people stating that change simply must happen if we are to be a just society.

The movement was founded after George Zimmerman’s acquittal for the murder of Trayvon Martin. During Zimmerman’s trial, his lawyer frequently implied that 17-year old Trayvon was somehow responsible for his own killing, presumably because he was a young black man out at night. The movement gained momentum after the 2014 shooting of Michael Brown, the death of Eric Garner, and many similar events. However, the focus of the movement goes far beyond the highly publicized and questionable killings of black people by police officers. It is a movement for the end of institutionalized and systemic racism; for an end to the criminalization and mass incarceration of black people for offenses that don’t result in similar treatment for white people; for committed investment in schools serving black children, for economic investments in communities of color and, very importantly, the active participation of black people in the decisions that impact their lives and communities.

Through the three and a half centuries since America’s inception, great harm has been inflicted on black people and the movement stresses it is time to repair that harm, to recognize the rights and history of black people, and to end their disenfranchisement. The movement is not simply an angry response to police actions against people of color and absolutely does not condone the killing of police officers. It is a widely disseminated myth that the Black Lives Matter movement hates police officers and that it advocates making our country more unsafe for them. While there are small but highly vocal groups advocating violence towards the police and which have received a lot of press, the broader Black Lives Matter movement is not anti-police and recognizes that police officers simply want to do their jobs and return home safely to their families.

This does not mean, however, that law enforcement organizations in the United States are not implicated in a system that frequently criminalizes black people, that often views them as unsafe and dangerous, and that does not stress that these citizens deserve to be protected and served just like everyone else. The Black Lives Matter movement is encouraging a return to the community policing rather than the current heavily militarized practices that exist in departments across the nation. Increasingly, the police presence makes black people feel less safe rather than more, given the often antagonistic ways in which police interact with citizens more generally and black citizens in particular. Police departments and their officers need to rebuild trust with the communities they serve.

Another misconception is that the movement hates white people. The statement “black lives matter” is not an anti-white proposition. Contained within it is an unspoken but implied “too,” as in “black lives matter, too,” which suggests inclusion rather than exclusion. However, there is a mischaracterization that affirming the value of black life is anti-white and that for white lives to matter, black lives cannot. That is a foundational premise of white supremacy and is antithetical to what the Black Lives Matter movement stands for, which is the simple proposition that “black lives also matter”.

It is not necessary to agree with everything that is disseminated under the Black Lives Matter name. It is clear that there are aspects of the movement and factions within it with which we might, or do, disagree, but in almost every civil rights movement there are such factions, which doesn’t necessarily mean one should back away. If we did, we wouldn’t have had civil rights legislation in the U.S., the end of apartheid in South Africa and of British rule in India, to name just three.

Don’t “All Lives Matter”?

As Unitarian Universalists we of course believe that all lives matter. However, the phrase “All Lives Matter” has become a rallying cry of critics of the Black Lives Matter movement, as have the accusations of the movement being anti-police or promoting violence. Such criticisms ignore how much more violence black Americans face on a day-to-day basis than their white compatriots. A major problem with “All Lives Matter” is that it takes the attention away from black people, shifting it to an “all” that is overwhelmingly white. To quote black minister John Crestwell Jr., of the UU Church of Annapolis, MD,

“Because of the structure and history of our country there is a lot of guilt and shame around slavery, our original sin as a nation. What has grown out of that, with black incarceration and drug laws, is a tremendous shame in white communities, within Unitarian Universalism and beyond. We aren’t able to articulate the shame, and so it comes out as anger and pushback when Black Lives Matter or other multicultural projects are promoted that are targeted specifically for African Americans.”

Currently a light is being shined upon black people who have experienced systemic injustice and we cannot ignore that by simply stating “all lives matter”. The Black Lives Matter movement has never claimed that black lives are more important than other lives but rather that black people are being criminalized and oppressed in a myriad of ways and it seeks to find solutions to these injustices.

What about “Blue Lives Matter”?

Black Lives Matter does not automatically mean that Blue Lives Don’t Matter and the movement doesn’t claim that it does, as has previously been mentioned in this FAQ. Those of us who live in comfortable suburban communities are unlikely to have negative experiences with our law enforcement personnel. Police throughout the nation perform heroic duty every day and keep many communities safe.

However, in predominantly poor black communities, community policing has mostly become militarized policing. The US government responded to threats of terrorism by providing police departments with military equipment, such as tanks, military grade weapons and riot gear. This equipment has been almost exclusively used in communities of color, not to deter terrorists. The Black Lives Matter movement is not trying to make the world more unsafe for police officers; rather it hopes to effect changes that make police officers less of a threat to communities of color and to be more supportive to these communities that they serve.

In August 2016, Rev. Kim Wildszewski, Rev. Rob Gregson of the UU Legislative Ministry of New Jersey, and Sallie Dunner of the Council for Faith in Action at UUCWC, met with Hopewell Township Chief of Police Lance Maloney, Lieutenant Chris Kascik and Ms. Julie Blake of the Hopewell Township Committee. There was a respectful and frank exchange of views and the officers indicated that they fully support our constitutional right to publicly express our values. They further stated that they did not consider our anti-racism work or support of Black Lives Matter as an affront or threat to them. In fact, the Hopewell police are very pro-active in ensuring that their police officers receive anti-bias and de-escalation training. Going forward, Rev. Kim and Sallie will continue to be in communication with the Hopewell police and the Township Committee.

What is institutional racism and how does it impact black people?

Institutional racism is expressed in the practice of social and political institutions. This is distinct from the racism of individuals or informal social groups. Institutional racism goes back to the earliest days of our nation when much of the country’s wealth was built on the backs of enslaved people and indentured servants. After the brief two year period of post-Civil War Reconstruction, Southern states enacted a myriad of punitive state and local laws known as Jim Crow laws, which targeted every area of black life. In Northern states segregation was not established by law but by patterns of housing and military segregation, bank lending practices and job discrimination, including discriminatory labor union practices. After World War II, a scant 4% of the million black GIs who served the country, were able to access the free education and good housing promised by the GI Bill. The former was due to universities having tiny quotas for blacks and the latter by FHA policies mapping out neighborhoods by the skin color of residents which effectively resulted in blacks being denied loans. Even after the 1964 Civil Rights Act was enacted, municipalities still found ways to circumvent the new laws. School segregation continued to exist, as did housing and job discrimination.

Welfare laws contributed to the break-up of families; the “man in the house” rule did not allow families to get assistance if there was an able-bodied man living in the home. So if a man lost his job, he literally had to leave home if he wanted his family to be eligible for government assistance. The Urban Renewal Program, dubbed the “Negro Removal Program” by James Baldwin, demolished entire neighborhoods to build highways, etc., resulting in the destruction of 90% of low income housing. The displaced residents were crammed into already decaying neighborhoods and the promised new housing never materialized. This critical point in our history created a housing footprint which froze communities into skin-color-coded have and have-nots, reaffirming segregation and causing increased distrust between the races.

Schools in the have-not districts were allowed to deteriorate, health care became non-existent, almost the only shops were, and still are, bodegas, liquor stores and payday lenders charging interest rates as high as 20%. People struggled on every level and continue to do so. Given the lack of opportunities, drugs took hold as a way of numbing pain and making a living. This lead to violence in communities of color as drug lords took over the neighborhoods. The draconian drug laws of the 1970s resulted in millions of arrests often for minor infractions causing the explosion in the prison population. This is much of what Black Lives Matter and other groups are now addressing.

Is the UUA Supporting the Black Lives Matter Movement?

Yes, it is and strongly encourages congregations to actively promote racial justice and support the Black Lives Matter movement. The 2015 General Assembly had a call and positive vote to support an action of immediate witness linking the Black Lives Matter movement to UU principles. It resolved that member congregations should be called to action, urged to engage in intentional learning spaces to organize for racial justice, and to work toward police reform and replacement of the current prison system with one that is more just and equitable. The action also urged member congregations to collaborate with other organizations in fighting for racial justice. To quote from the UUA 2015 Action of Immediate Witness Statement, “No matter who you are, black lives matter, and a system of fair, transformative and restorative justice that is accountable to communities is something to which each of us has a right.” Unitarian Universalism’s commitment to the Black Lives Matter movement was reaffirmed during General Assembly 2016.

What is Standing on the Side of Love?

The Standing on the Side of Love (SSL) campaign is sponsored by the UUA and is a public advocacy campaign that seeks to harness love’s power to stop oppression. It came into being after the shooting at Tennessee Valley UU Church in Knoxville which was targeted because they stood in support of Marriage Equality and SSL now strongly supports Black Lives Matter. Most UU Black Lives Matter banners use the SSL yellow background and their heart logo. SSL affirms and promotes these simple but daring acts in the communities of faith that make up our liberal religious tradition.

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Sub Frenzy — June 16, 2020

Sub Frenzy

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As I write the photo credit I’m definitely giggling to myself that there is a website called Get Frenzy! I’m going to write about frenzy but this frenzy is all about Submissive Frenzy.

Whether you’re a single submissive or with a partner right now it’s really good to try and be intact with your feelings and emotions right now because many of us cannot be together how we used to be which means most of us aren’t getting our kinky release that we used to have whether it was most of the time or once in awhile.

I haven’t played or had any release since Halloween of last year which I usually don’t play often because I’m single and my priorities don’t have much allotted time and also when I do get that time to play I play with friends that I really trust and have known for a good amount of time. Most times when I’m out I just enjoy the socialization and being able to just be myself with others who do the same.

If you don’t know what submissive frenzy is check out this article about Sub Frenzy and how that looks like:

Also for myself I do not believe that sub frenzy is just new submissive folks because sometimes you might not get to play for a long time whether that is days, weeks, months, or even a year. Things happen in life where priorities change and that means so does everything else.

I say that because I have had sub frenzy moments where I was not cautious and I met people in an unsafe manner nor did I have access to a kinky community that I have around here and online as well. Yes you can get hurt in those moments where you let your guard down and do things in an unsafe manner.

So please check in with yourself physically and mentally! I have had small bouts of sub frenzy pop up because yes I really miss impact play and I really miss people I haven’t seen in a long time. Sometimes I get it when i’m browsing fetlife and seeing everyone’s kinky photos and I tell myself that my life is different than their life is and list just the true facts. Yes I miss connection and interaction in those nice kinky ways and I know they’ll come again down the road it may be for a long time but it is okay.

Again check in with yourself mentally and physically and things will be okay. Stay safe ❤

Starting of Summer —

Starting of Summer

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Pretty much zoom meetings and virtual school is over with and thus beginning summer vacation! Where I live the summers can get very hot and humid quick with temperatures in the high 80’s to 100 degrees. (Yuck I dislike humidity)

With Covid-19 pools and playgrounds are still off limits and closed for the summer along with theaters, bowling alleys, etc. There are outdoor dining but many places where I live are not following social distancing and people are too close to each other and not wearing masks. Yes I get it not wearing it while you’re drinking and eating which is why there should be more space between tables to observe it and also you never know if someone is really sick because yeah adults lie too.

I started walking with my kids this week in the evenings when it’s cool outside and honestly it’s helped their mood a lot and they’re not as bored which is a good thing because having a child say “Mom/Dad I’m bored” all day isn’t fun and after awhile not only does it get annoying but you start to feel guilty because there favorite activities are not available to do right now.

Another thing we do is yes movies at least twice a week but definitely every Friday night because my teens also enjoy horror movies besides animated and family movies. Right now our ritual is watching Joe Bob Briggs The Last Drive in it’s a very entertaining show with great horror movies and good commentary in between.

If you’re a parent hang in there the best you can and yes right now it’s literally all about the little things you can do with your kids no matter age and yes finding things not only inside to do but outside as well it’ll help their mood and sleep pattern as well if you might struggle with that.

Happy Summer Vacation!

The King Eternal Monarch Finale (Spoilers) —

The King Eternal Monarch Finale (Spoilers)

Friday June 12th was the finale of The South Korean Romance/Fantasy Drama The King Eternal Monarch.

The South Korean show Stars Lee Min-ho, Kim Go-Eun as Lee Gon (The King of Corea) and Jung Tea-eul who is a police detective in the Republic Of Korea.

The final episode completed the series as Lee Gon and Jo Young (Woo Do-Hwan) The Head of the Royal Guard go back to the night where Lee Gon’s Father was killed by Lee Lim (Lee Jung-Jin) who is Gon’s uncle, to restore balance to the world by getting the magical Manpasikjeok stick whole again. They succeed and Lee Gon successfully kills his Lee Lim and restores balance to the world.

Lee Gon then takes the Manpasikjeok and goes through time to find Jung Tea-eul again which takes time because each world is different but in the end he finds the right Jung Tea-eul who remembers Lee Gon and their time spent together when the Manpasikjeok was broke in half.

It’s a beautiful love story and full of action. You’ll definitely cry at the ending of the series. Definitely check it out if you haven’t seen it. You can see every episode available on Netflix.

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Black Lives Matter is real — June 14, 2020

Black Lives Matter is real

Black Lives Matter is real and more than just a movement. Black Lives Matter is a real organization which is based in the US, UK, and Canada and started shortly after Trayvon Martin’s Murder in 2013.

It’s to end White Supremacy everywhere and it does exist and you can see it and find it in every country in the world. It is more predominant here in the United States than anywhere else in the world. It is more than just about slavery and more than just about the police murders on innocent blacks in the world. It is about decades of injustice through the judicial system, executive system, and legislative system. All of these three systems in the US are broken and there is so much abuse of power.

I myself am white and am learning so much more about Black Lives Matter and how to help in my own community and help take a stand. I myself didn’t fully understand this I only understood what I was taught throughout school about racism and injustice that was been done previously throughout history.

If you are white please take a moment do some research how you can get involved and learn what Black Lives Matter is really all about. It’s so much more than you’ve been taught and more than what you’ve seen.

Words do haunt — June 12, 2020

Words do haunt

The old phrase sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me is not true at all.

Words do hurt and indeed haunt whether consciously or unconsciously. I’m indeed haunted by words and phrases from my past all the way from middle school. They still impact my life today even though I continue to work on those words to not hurt me anymore.

I really dislike and do not enjoy the random thoughts and memories that pop up in my mind. I’ve been called jelly donut, free willy, and other things that comes with being fat in this world. I was also harassed verbally by a few teachers and when you’re 13 whose going to believe you the administration just brushes those things off.

I’m sure if you’re reading this you might be thinking but you can change the “fat”. Well Deary I’ve been working on not being “fat” since I was 13. I actually did get to where I wasn’t considered “Obese” anymore in my early 20’s then my second pregnancy happened. I have hypothyroidism and that’s a crazy battle when you’re trying to be healthy. There’s no cure for it and it can take months for me to even lose five pounds. The doctors where I live aren’t very helpful and yes I take hypothyroidism medicine daily. Doctors only do the bare minimum so it’s hard to really find help and everyone’s be all end all solution is weight loss surgery. No thank you.

I have really bad anxiety especially now where I live at present hoping to god I don’t run into my past tormentors because many do not grow up and are still very juvenile. Yes I see a therapist and work on myself and my mental health issues.

Please be kind to others if you don’t like someone’s appearance keep it to yourself don’t degrade or torment them. Words do haunt and cause mental anguish and trauma.

LGBTQ+ Services for Youth By State by Lambda Legal — June 8, 2020
Happy Pride Month —

Happy Pride Month

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It is June 2020 and in June it is Pride Month! Pride Month is where LGBTQ+ celebrate Pride and show history of The Stonewall uprising all month long. I’m still learning as well and there are plenty of resources for each and every state.

This month take the time to learn the history of Pride Month and different organizations whether they are national or in your own state. There are plenty of opportunities to learn especially with everyone still communicating virtually and having webinars and zoom classes.

Here are some of the US Based and international LGBTQ+ resources to check out: ACLU: American Civil Liberties Union GLAAD: Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defemation RAINBOW a round table of the American Library Association Human Rights Campaign Lambda Legal National Center for Lesbian Rights National LGBTQ Task Force PFLAG Amnesty International – Gender, Sexuality, and Identity Equality Forum (Advancing LGBT Civil Rights) The International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, and Intersex Association Outright Action International (Human Rights for LGBTIQ people everywhere)

Staying connected virtually — May 27, 2020

Staying connected virtually

I’m writing this because I watched a live Instagram of one of the many things I follow.

Now yes my WordPress name as well as fetlife name is KinkyGeekyT and yes I’m kinky! My kink/bdsm life is pretty much non existent except virtually and on social media platforms. I’m a single/asexual/little/bottom and I choose for personal reasons to stay single and also yeah my number one role on this planet is called Mom but i’m more than that and i’m slowly regaining my personal power and energy in re discovering that.

It’s been harder with covid-19 to do so because i’m finally re finding my way into the special needs parents community again which has been really wonderful and i’ve met some very nice parents. It’s just nice to not feel alone with the different struggles and successes we each go through.

I also feel that way with kink and it’s so nice that some of the groups I’ve been following are emerging more and making more of a presence across social media platforms because it’s nice to know i’m not alone there are others that might be going through the same journey or like the same kinks that I might like.

Besides Fetlife you can find other kink/bdsm groups on Facebook and Instagram. Twitter is a small portion because while it’s semi active it’s become more of a political platform especially with you know who on there. (lol you know who, Lord Voldemort seems less of a scare hahaha)

If you’re feeling lonely and disconnected from whichever lifestyle you engage in there are others out there giving knowledge and connecting in the different communities out there in social media. Please check it out and get back a little bit of normal.

Sonic The Hedgehog (2020) Fangirl Spoils ahead! —

Sonic The Hedgehog (2020) Fangirl Spoils ahead!

Sonic the Hedgehog was freaking awesome!!!!!!!!!!! Yes bringing on the fangirl to this post because I enjoyed the movie and Jim Carrey was awesome as Doctor Robotnik and oh i’ve missed his humor so much!!! Squee!!!!

It was really cool to see a bit of Lore about Sonic and a little bit of where he came from. I wish they would’ve added more information about the Lore of Sonic because we just got so little of it and I think more of that Lore would’ve been nice to see in the movie.

The soundtrack is really awesome the music throughout the movie keeps up the pace and makes so many moments really funny especially the moment where James Marsden and Sonic are in the bar as a fight starts to get really out of control. It just reminded me of the moment in X-Men Apocolypse when Quicksilver is getting everyone out of the school from the fire. (you have to admit that was seriously the best part of that whole movie) The only credited full song that I could find Speed Me Up Wiz KhalifaLil Yachty, Sueco the Child and Ty Dolla $ign and it is a really fun song to listen to. I really recommend checking it out.

Yes the ending spoils is yes it’s a happy ending and then a golden circle appears on the top of the mountain over looking the small town and you think it’s Dr. Robotnik coming out but no it is TAILS!!!!!!!!

So PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Paramount make the sequel!!!!!!!! Sonic and Tails together again oh yes yes yes yes!!!!!!!!!!

So check out Sonic the Hedgehog and then if you’re able to get on your plug in Sega Genesis and play some old school Sonic the Hedgehog.

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